CONFRONTATION!!!!!!

Let's see, how do I start this blog????? Right to the point I guess like everything else I share.. Let me first say I write this blog to share my life experiences, so as maybe someone can learn from some of my mistakes and mostly my triumphant's of 51 years on this planet we call EARTH!!!!

So last night a friend was over, and we are embarking on a big new adventure, but it is a BIG adventure that we all must be on the same page about... Now before I start I want to let you all know I love this man like he was my brother, and I think the reason I do is because of what I am about to share with you all!!!!

So anyways we got to talking about everything, come to find out he was not on the same page AT ALL!!! So long story short we talked (Very LOUD) to get our points across. To the tune of about 4 hours... Well when he left, NOTHING had been gotten on the "same page" if ya know what I mean;) So I stayed up most of the night stewing about how "WRONG & UNREASONABLE" HE was, lol.... Then it finally came to me, he made a "little" sense in a "few" areas :) So I reworked "MY" plan to include his thoughts ~ go figure!!! So I called him this morning to run by my new thoughts, and he goes yea, I think that could really work. I told him I was furious with him last night, and he "CALMLY" goes yea, I knew you were, lol.... Did I mention, I really love him!!! Well as I go through this day, "MY" plan is now even BETTER!!!! because of him!!! Then I talked to my son (MJ) and tell it all to him and say " you know your mom is a little strong willed at times" well he didn't say a word, but I heard the laugh, and could almost hear him say "YA THINK????" then we talked about another friend from years ago, from the lake, and lots of people had major issues with him, but I loved him... and just today I figured out why.....

Because you knew right where he stood, and he may come right back at ya where you think he wasn't listening but he was and when we would go home for the week, most of the time we would come back and say " you were right there and I was wrong here" and we had mutual respect for each other... Same with my "brother" last night... We didn't need to agree on everything BUT...... We did need to talk it out!!! So yes I hate confrontation, but I believe it is so much better to get it all out on the table (in love), than to keep silent and go for weeks, months and even years, Angry in you heart, because you never laid your thought out on the table... I have people in my life who are not able to talk things out and I respect that, but those people don't seem to hold the same place in my heart as the ones who can speak freely and go home and blow up and come back with a "I was wrong here, but you were a little off there" and in turn make a much better relationship in the long run..

All that said to say this, LIFE is worth the "fight"!!!! It, for me at least, has ALWAYS made for a stronger, and deeper relationship... One of true love and respect for the other person... Life is about trials and disputes... It's how you come out on the other side that counts.. So if I'm ever unreasonable, TELL ME!!!, Then give me a day or two, I'll come tell ya I'm sorry and love ya!!! God Bless, Go live this beautiful life to the fullest, and remember to do it in LOVE!!!!!